Read the attached article I wrote about a problem like that one on a car like yours. The lady had spent 2000 bucks and we fixed her car for almost no money.
You may have a different problem than the one I outline, but somebody has to get serious and properly interpret what's going on. The Idle Air Control valve won't cause a surging while driving down the road.
Nobody would have believed the Malibu I wrote about was a transmission problem - not even the transmission mechanics, but the car is fixed.
Your situation is a heartbreaker, and you need a real mechanic.